Finding the beauty within is something that is not discussed often enough.
As a women I am told I much act a certain way, I must dress a certain way, I must behave in a certain manner. FALSE. NOT ACCURATE.
Once I found myself within I no longer held myself to societal norms!
What makes me happy is not something that is going to please everyone. As individuals that’s what we are. Individual. The word means: of or for a particular person, single or separate. It can be an adjective or a noun. It means we are all distinct!
For a very long time I felt as though it was my life’s mission to please those around me. I became a care taker while sacrificing my own happiness. If I could make it happen for you, I would. Even at the cost of my happiness, my inner worth, and my identify at times. I got lost in the who, what, when, and where. I became someone I was not because I thought my happiness would come from seeing your happiness. My identity become a self-sacrificer.
Every day I find some sort of beauty within myself and other people. Before we touch on ourselves let’s look at others.
Read the entire book. Do not and I repeat do not just look at the cover. What I mean is before you judge someone based on their clothing, hairstyle, or even make up get to know them first. The people I take the time to genuinely know are the ones I build ever lasting sentimental relationships with.
Instead of asking someone how are they doing? I often ask are you happy? I love learning the small things. You like music but why do you love this genre the most? There is always more to a person than meets the eye.
I believe in attraction rather than promotion.
In this world we live in today we are consumed with what is the most popular new thing going on. This can be in music, fashion, trends. We look at what’s being promoted rather than what we find attractive.
Today I find myself attractive because of the beauty I have found within. I admire my hard work ethic. I admire my willingness to be open and honest about all aspects of my life. I admire my integrity. I admire my person because I am my person today.
Inner beauty is something that takes us a while to find. I believe we all struggle with insecurities. It’s about finding acceptance of those insecurities. It’s about finding the assets in our selves. It was once suggested to me to ask five people assets (good things) about myself and write them down. Here’s the twist! Three of the people should be close friends. Two of the people should be someone you don’t care for. Ouch! Give it a try yourself and see what happens. When I completed the little character building assignment, I learned that the people who I did not like actually thought very highly of me. I did not read the book, did I? That’s right, I just looked at the cover.
If you allow yourself you’ll be amazed with what looking inward will do for your mind, body, and spirit.
Remember, People are like oreos, the good stuff is on the inside!